Being a woman's first is a big deal. Thank you David from Seattle! David was the first true contact in my dating journey.
I was parked in the room "I Love Men Over 40" on AOL. When I say I was parked, it means I wasn't chatting in the room. I don't chat much. I park in a room, then I go about doing other things on the computer for work or do laundry or clean house. I wait for someone to IM me. I rarely make the first contact. Women get zillions of IMs on AOL. I don't have time nor the inclination to talk to all that IM me, so I carefully screen them before I engage. I talk to only one man at a time, so I'm very particular about which one.
David and I hit it off immediately. He was easy to talk to and made me laugh. I love a good sense of humor. He also has never been married. (red flag) I just hated that he lived so far away. I knew that because of the distance we would never truly get together. Distance can be real factor. Is it worth the time investment? I'm saying this in "20-20 hindsight" since it happened so long ago. I didn't know or understand the distance factor. Now I know that they need to live near me to have a successful relationship.
Today, David and I are still in contact. We talk by phone once a week with emails and IMs, too. There was a 2 month period at the first of the year that David just disappeared. I sent emails but he never answered them. I was pissed to say the least, but then how much control or interest should I have in a very loose relationship? I mean did I gain anything from knowing him and understanding we would never meet? Waste of time?
I'd finally resigned to never hearing from him again when he popped up in March. I did make him grovel for my interest again. LOL He decided to go back to an old girlfriend. That in it's self is fine but he didn't tell me until 2 months had passed! David weaseled out by not telling me up front what was happening and why he was going to stop contact. That was my issue with him--timing.
Yesterday, June 14th was David's 46th birthday. We talked. He was going to celebrate his birthday and Father's Day on Sunday with his family.
What does the future hold with David? I have no clue. We have a small but good bond--that is all.
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